Fr.
Robert Joseph Falk, SDB (1932-2022)
Fr.
Robert J. Falk, SDB, a longtime Salesian missionary to Korea, went home to the
Lord on the afternoon of April 13, 2022, at St. Mary’s Hospital in Seoul. He was 90 years old and had been a professed
Salesian of Don Bosco for more than 66 years and a priest for 59 years.
Fr.
Falk was a native of Green Bay, Wisc., one of four sons of Manuel James Falk
and Alice Burlow Falk. He was born on
January 2, 1932, and was baptized on January 24, 1932, at St. Joseph’s Church
in Green Bay and confirmed in the same church at an unknown date.
Bob
went to St. Joseph’s parish school, then to Central Catholic High School, run
by the Norbertines. He began college at
St. Norbert College. With a Chick Evans
Caddie Scholarship, he was able to transfer to the University of Notre Dame. This scholarship originates from the Oneida
Golf and Country Club in Green Bay, where Bob had worked in the locker room.
At
age 21, Bob came to the Salesians and entered the Sons of Mary Program for
“late vocations” at Don Bosco College Seminary in Newton, N.J., on September
19, 1953. He attributed his vocation to
“a good Christian family and a good Catholic high school run by the Norbertine
Fathers. The environment—contact with
some very pastoral priests and missionaries—instilled in my heart the desire to
do some good, to help the less fortunate.”
Later, at Notre Dame one of the priests advised him to join the
Salesians.
He
was admitted to St. Joseph’s Novitiate in Newton on September 7, 1954, which
was guided by Fr. Aloysius Bianchi as master.
He made his first profession of religious vows there on September 8,
1955. Some of his classmates were Tony
Ambrogio, John Blanco, Francis Bracchi, Gus Hagus, George Hanna, Jean-Paul
Lebel, Joe Lockwood, Orlando Molina, Gerard Richard, Alfred Rinaldi, Romeo
Trottier, Robert Uzzilio (who later joined the Bridgeport Diocese), and Charles
Verville—obviously quite a class!
Becoming a Missionary
Bro.
Falk graduated from Don Bosco College with a B.A. in philosophy in June
1956. Having volunteered for the
missions, he was sent to Korea in November 1956 after obtaining the necessary
visas. He did practical training at the
Salesian high school in Kwangju, South Korea (1956-1959), teaching English,
coaching basketball, and caring for “around 100 needy boys who were living with
us.” He completed tirocinium ottimamente,
according to his provincial.
Bro. Bob Falk with students at Kwangju, 1956
Therefore
the superiors decided to admit him to perpetual vows before he began his
theological studies, and the provincial requested that he make the necessary
retreat in the U.S. He returned to the
States and made his perpetual profession in Newton on September 8, 1959.
Bro.
Falk went to Turin to study at the Pontifical Athenaeum Salesianum (the
“Crocetta,” from its neighborhood). He
earned an STL there and was ordained on February 11, 1963.
After
ordination, Fr. Falk returned to Korea and spent the rest of his life
there. His first priestly assignment was
with the aspirants in Seoul (1963-1965).
In 1965 he was appointed director of the high school and Salesian
community at Kwangju and served a six-year term.
Leadership of the Korean Salesians
For
the following year he was posted to Seoul as director of the Don Bosco Youth
Center for poor working young men (1971-1972).
His term was interrupted by his nomination as superior of the Korean
Delegation, a fairly autonomous section of the Japanese Province at that
time. According to Fr. Falk it was a
turbulent period. Little love was lost
between Koreans and Japanese after 35 years of Japanese occupation of the
country (1910-1945). As the first
“local” superior of the delegation, Fr. Falk succeeded in uniting the confreres
(young Koreans and older European and American missionaries) and properly
structuring the Salesian works. He
served in that office until 1978
Fr.
Falk was succeeded as delegation superior by Fr. Luc Van Looy, a Flemish
missionary who spoke about seven languages fluently and later became a member
of the Salesian general council, vicar of the Rector Major, and bishop of Ghent
in his native Flanders. He once told Jim
Hurley “that
when he spoke English he was often mistaken for an American, and Americans
sometimes mistook him for someone from Wisconsin. Remarkably, he got both his mastery of English
and his Wisconsin accent from Bob Falk.”
Of
Fr. Falk Bishop Van Looy writes: “For me
too he was a saintly confrere. When I followed him as superior of the Korean
delegation, I nominated him master of novices; at that he came to tell me:
‘Luke, this is the first mistake you have made as a superior.’ This says
everything about him.”
In
1984 the delegation was promoted to a vice province and in 1998 to a full
province. It currently has 117
Salesians. The numbers of young and
now-middle-aged Korean Salesians speak of the formation that Fr. Falk
instilled in his novices and others.
Recalling
the history of the Salesians in Korea, which began after the Korean War (1953),
he told the newsletter of Evans Scholars Alumni Association that, apart from
the Salesian schools and youth centers, “In the beginning, … almost every boy
was poor, hungry and in need. This meant
food, study, trades and a place to sleep.
Now the boys come from the streets, juvenile courts, children of poor
leper families, boys abandoned by their parents. . . . Our boys ate only twice a day and then just a
little rice and Kimchi. Their homes were
so poor, so cold. However, despite all
the difficulties there was definitely hope and joy. Joy was present because they had one another,
they share the little they had. I was
often touched by the generosity of the poor.”
Given
a well-earned sabbatical year, he went to Rome for study at the Salesian
Pontifical University (1978-1979). On
his return to Korea, he served two periods as master of novices in (1979-1990
and 1992-1997), at times doubling also as community director. He was also the Korean Province’s delegate
for the past pupils and the Salesian Cooperators, the ecclesiastical assistant
for the Don Bosco Volunteers, and for many years a member of the provincial
council.
From
1990 to 1992 he was director of one of the Seoul communities, and from 1993 to
1999 he directed the Salesian house at Dae Jeon. He became director again at
Kwangju from 1999 to 2003. He spent 2003-2008
as director of an out-of-country Korean mission, where he was, among other
things, very supportive of American lay missioners there.
In
2008 Fr. Falk returned to Kwangju as spiritual director of the house of
formation. Eventually his health
declined, and in 2019 he moved to the provincial house in Seoul.
The Grace of Vocation
At
the time of his 50th anniversary of profession (2005), Fr. Falk wrote: “These 50 years have been years of joy and
grace. The greatest joy has been the grace to love God, the Salesian confreres,
and the young in a family, in our Salesian community. The joy of praying
together, working together, living together has made everything so joyful, so
rewarding.”
He
very much enjoyed doing retreat work, any sort of youth work, and assisting
young workers. In 2001 he wrote in the Evans
Scholars newsletter: “I’ve been in Korea
since 1956 and … I’ve enjoyed every day here in this wonderful country, and the
Korean people and our boys have been so good to me—too good. I’ve truly found another family. I’m lucky to have two families. This is much better than a hole-in-one. By the way, I never had a hole-in-one, but
‘almost.’”
He
continued: “[I] desire to share the joy
of Christ with our boys and, in return, I have received and continue to receive
much joy and wisdom from our boys and the Korean people. I’ve learned that we Christians do not have a
monopoly on love. The spirit of love is
present, especially in the poor. My
motivation and my joy is to share somehow in the lives of those I encounter in
my daily routine—to be present at the right moment, to say a kind word, to feel
the pain and suffering and to somehow participate in this person’s, this boy’s
situation. Why have I been called to
this? That is the mystery of life. We are all called, and we all respond in
different ways. I truly don’t feel that
what I have done is special.”
Assisting Salesian Lay Missioners
That
his life and ministry was more than special is attested by SLM Matt Sullivan,
who ministered under him at that out-of-Korea mission: “Fr. Bob was a great man. In some ways it is
fitting that we lost him during Holy Week, but I feel the world is a bit worse
without him in it. I’ll always remember
having coffee with him after lunch and talking about the challenges of living
our host country and learning its language. You could also see how the other
Salesians, students, and even the government officials at the school respected
and admired him.”
Matt’s
father Neil visited the school and offers his own tribute: “We are so sorry to hear this. Fr. Bob
was a Saint. If someone asked to be shown a faithful follower of Jesus in
this world, I would say Fr. Bob. What a wonderful person and Christian. He use
to call us from Korea on almost a regular basis by computer. Every phone call
he mentioned you [Matt] and thanked you for your service. It was always about
others and never about himself. He served in an unselfish manner for over
60 years in service of God through the Salesians. I feel the world has reduced good with his
passing. I expect he is on the express line into Heaven. We had the honor
to know him.”
Funeral Rites
Fr. Falk was waked at the Salesian provincial
house from Thursday to Saturday. Funeral will be on Saturday, just with prayers
for the dead. Fr. Henry Bonetti
explains: “We wake for three days all day and night. Every hour on the hour
there are about 30 minutes of prayer in groups. The prayers are sung in the
old-fashioned Confucian tone. Some Psalms like the Miserere and a litany of the
saints (many, many saints!), and after each saint is added, 'Pray for Fr.
Robert Falk.' Today [Thursday] till three the body lay exposed and people could
come to view it. But at three we had a 'Placing in the Coffin' ceremony that
has its own liturgy according to Korean custom. After that the coffin is closed
and tied with white cloth ribbons, then goes back out to again lying under a
black cloth covering till the funeral. You don’t get to see the body again.”
Fr. Bonetti’s eulogy during the days of the
wake merits inclusion:
“You
ask me how he lived. He lived like a
saint. He lived like Don Bosco and St.
Francis de Sales. He lived the ‘little virtues’ to such a degree that they
became great virtues. He lived what Don
Bosco says about the conduct of Louis Comollo. His conduct “was made up of many small
virtues, but practiced in such a way as to make him universally admired as a
model of extraordinary virtue.”
“In
the novitiate [at Newton] on the side wall of the chapel was a gospel verse
suggested by Fr. Angelo Franco, ‘I have come to set the world on fire.’ Well, Bob was not going to set the world on fire.
He just let the world set him on fire. I
believe he practiced ‘the Presence of God’ at an eminent degree, finding God in
whatever he was doing at the time. Like
Francis de Sales and Don Bosco, he took everything as the will of God: ‘Ask for nothing, refuse nothing.’
“He
asked for no position. When it was
thrust on him, he fulfilled his office with calm and humility, without any
trepidation. He had no agenda; he made no projects, no plans. He just took life
as it came to him, helped people out as they needed it, solved problems as they
needed solving. If someone came to visit
(I would say they were more than 75% women, both lay and nuns), he would sit
with them over tea and cake, for as long as was needed, one, two, three hours. It didn’t matter.
“As
for events, he never hurried; he waited, almost unperturbed, for problems to
solve themselves. This, of course,
exasperated lesser mortals to no end, but when everything was said and done, he
was usually right. This type of heart toward God, people, and events gave him a
wisdom that was sometime uncanny in its accuracy. Short, one-sentence advice given in candor and
loving-kindness usually found its mark. One
would later think that the words came not from the earth, but from heaven. He was this kind of man—unpretentious,
unassuming, willing to be subject to others and events, letting them dictate to
him what God wants and what he should do to fulfill His will.
“He
liked sports and was happy when the young were happy. In the afternoon you could
almost always find him on the court with the young. Later, he remained on the side but still there
cheering the young on. He was, as in the
title of a book by the Servant of God Baroness Catherine Doherty, one of the People
of the Towel and Water. It was
fitting that he died during these days when our salvation is achieved in
humility and love from the foot-washing to the foot of the cross. For Bob was the incarnation of that humble
service that leads to loving redemption.”
Apropos
of Fr. Bonetti’s reference to “the court” comes this short note from another
Salesian Lay Missioner, Greg Lim: “Fr.
Bob had already left the [out-of-country] school before we arrived in August
2008. Eric, Claire, and I did have the fortune of meeting him in Korea in
April 2009, though. The Salesians had invited us to the
provincial house in Seoul during a short school break. Fr. Bob just
happened to be visiting the provincial at the same time. He invited
us to stay with him if we ever found ourselves in Kwangju. I wish I could
have seen him in action on the basketball court. We heard many stories
about his proficient shooting.”